Gottman Card Decks

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Last verified 5 Aug 2026

4.8 1652 ratings · App Store

1. 5/5The original, free, helpful tool

   There are lots of brands advertising similar products that cost money, but this is the original concept modernized for the digital age. It seems silly, but believe me when I say this saved my relationship by cutting through the BS and assumptions, opening up conversation and curiosity, and helping us understand where some of those assumptions were coming from and work through them rather than remaining defensive and stuck. Honestly, with just a few hours of playing with these cards, the love of my life and I are spending actual quality time together rather than going through the motions, and the sparkle is back in our eyes. If things feel grim but the relationship is safe and worth saving, give this free resource a shot.

   Carolynesutra · 5 Aug 2026

2. 5/5Help to communicate

   I’ll start by saying, I grew up in a family where communicating was not commonplace (especially feelings). I’ve been married for almost 12 years after marrying young. Needless to say we had our share of arguments. I like these cards. They help find ways to communicate, especially in moments when you don’t really know how. There are a lot of great random ways to bring you closer to your significant other. I especially like the open ended questions. I wish there were more conversation starters, similar to writing prompts. The topics really are relevant. In a time where electronics have taken over our lives, I would like to see a patch allowing me to share a card rather than taking a screenshot. This is minor and not necessary. Great app for relationships!!

   Busy daddy-o · 5 Aug 2026

3. 5/5Helpful practical tool to build relationship

   Sometimes you just need a cue card to move you in a direction to help deepen the connection you both want. Gottman is regarded as one of (if not the most) well-researched marriage expert(s). The decks are simple in concept (sex questions, building love maps, expressing needs, communicating emotions, etc.), which can make it seem simplistic on the surface, but this is how connection is built, in the small moments of turning towards one another. I highly recommend you uses these with your partner for enriching your communication and connectedness. You won’t regret it.

   Teaterdaniel · 5 Aug 2026

4. 5/5Very Helpful to Start Conversations!

   Sometimes my mind goes blank on what to ask. My family wasn't the greatest at communicating or asking questions of each other besides the "How was your day?" ones and as an introvert I'm used to people talking at me. So, thinking up thoughtful questions to ask someone while on a date or in a relationship is difficult. These has been helpful to get a conversation going since new topics can easily crop up from what's mentioned.

   AnythingQuiet · 5 Aug 2026

5. 5/5Big fan of Gottman

   Love this app. My fiancé calls this the talking game and it’s one of our favorite conversations starters. I’m embarking on my second marriage and I will be forever grateful to Gottman for helping me put words to what went wrong in my former 23 years long relationship/marriage. I realized I didn’t trust him. This card deck will help build a love map and trust with your partner. I’ve already suggested it to probably 10 friends. Thank you for your ongoing and inspirational work on behalf of couples!

   Gen817 · 5 Aug 2026

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